Kindness. Listening. Understanding. Empathy.

I find myself lately wondering how to foster these traits in others. We seem so caught up in hate, in being “right”, in sticking to some fake “party line”, that it is just utterly damaging.

I am listening to some amazing podcasts addressing Confirmation Bias as of late, and while I know it is doing me a lot of good to listen to these and to learn how to recognize and counter balance my own confirmation biases, how can I get others to do the same? My heart aches with every story of racial injustice, the NFL kneeling debacle where SO many people didn’t understand WHY Kap was kneeling (and that he consulted with a veteran before doing so – as a veteran and active service member, I GET it, and feel that we have fought for generations to give people the right to peacefully protest), the complete inability for either side to have a simple DISCUSSION about gun safety (notice how I didn’t say restriction, removal, etc?!). While on one hand I am grateful to know just how much racism and bigotry is around me now, I just keep coming back to WHY? Just why?

Why can’t we be kind? Why can’t we listen to one another without attacking? Why can’t we work together to make things better for everyone? Why can’t we all show some empathy for those who live a very different life than we do? Just why?


“I wish I could say that racism and prejudice were only distant memories. We must dissent from the indifference. We must dissent from the apathy. We must dissent from the fear, the hatred and the mistrust…We must dissent because America can do better, because America has no choice but to do better.”
~Thurgood Marshall