Its been almost a year since my last post. A busy year. A crazy year. But a year that found me wanting to blog – just unwilling to take the time. The job is always busy for different reasons, I have gone back to school to work on my Masters degree, Abi is preparing for High School (how did THAT happen?!) and Chris is expanding his creativity with fun projects. We are about a year out from learning whether we will stay here in DC or head back to NH, and I try not to stress about that too much – the pros outweigh the cons with every outcome, so it is easy to take comfort in the fact that, either way, we will be together and make the best of it!
I have found in that year that straying too far from my centering practices – exercise, yoga, meditation, etc – has almost immediate consequences, and I have to focus to ensure I don’t stray too far too often. So I take this moment to remind you……..it doesn’t matter what your religion is, what your passion is, but you have to find it and let it be your driving force to be the best you each and every day.
“There are techniques of Buddhism, such as meditation, that anyone can adopt.”
So, I love this story that is making its way around on social media sites. In trying to find a link to the original story however, I find that it is “unsubstantiated” by several rumor squashing websites. But honestly, who cares? Real or fake, there is an idea inside this story that should be fostered as a society and taught to our children in hopes of a better tomorrow.
The gist of the story is that a pastor decided to pretend he was homeless before being introduced to his new congregation – and the reactions before and after the revelation of his true identity. At the heart of it – is this a story about religion? No. Is it a story about the homeless? No. What I see this story being about is something that we seem to have lost sight of………HUMANITY. At some point, long before our generation and maybe even back to the beginning of man-kind, people stopped looking at other people as HUMAN. There are numerous examples of this throughout our history, but today, with more people on this planet than the poor globe knows how to support, you see it every day and everywhere. It is heart wrenching to see it as globally as religions forgetting that they were founded upon Peace and to also see it as commonly as within your own cubicle row at the office.
We are all human. We all have struggles. Far too many people believe their universe is and should be the center for everyone else’s universe, and have no concept of empathy for what the person next to them may be going through. From the recent widow struggling to find their new identity at an age far too young for many to comprehend, to the parents who just discovered that their blissfully happy family is being tested by a terrifying disease in their only young child – the people around you deserve to be thought of as human and we
ALL deserve one another’s empathy and understanding. Next time you think you are having such an amazingly bad day because an accident on the highway kept you from getting to the grocery store before soccer practice, just take a moment to think that that accident you passed by may have just altered several lives in ways you hope never to comprehend.
Thanks for reading, and be kind to those around you simply because you can.
“An individual has not started living until he can rise above the narrow confines of his individualistic concerns to the broader concerns of all humanity.” – Martin Luther King, Jr.
Not a day goes by that I don’t look around my life and my home and think “How did I get so lucky?”. Platy and I have been through SO much together, and yet find ourselves just as blissfully happy as we were in that “newlywed” stage that everyone swears will go away. 14 amazing years, and still, not a single business trip do I think “Finally a chance to get away”, and not one instance of “Well, I’m gonna work late to avoid going home”.
Thank you, my love, for our wonderful life, our amazing daughter, and the most
incredible 14 years – with the hope of many many more to come!
“Our wedding was many years ago. The celebration continues to this day.” ~Gene Perret
We have most of our boxes unpacked (and two cars in the garage after our highly productive day yesterday!), Abi is loving her new school and room (complete with her own bathroom!), and Chris is driving and gaining more movement in his hand by the day. I had a bit of trouble adjusting to work (it’s never easy to start over!), but have found too many reasons to be thankful for where I am in life to continue worrying about the inconveniences of “not liking” the new job! A wonderful family, a great location with a very nice house, and a lovely area with endless adventures for the mind, body and palette! Thank you universe for bringing us to where we are, and allowing us to grow together as a family through times that could’ve been destructive, but fortunately served only to make us stronger!
“I am thankful for every moment.” -Al Green
We have had some seriously crazy times in the past month! A new job with a big move should have been enough, but the universe tossed us a couple of extra bumps to test our resolve. From the historical blizzard that suddenly decided to hit on the day we were supposed to head out, to my complete inability to work at work, it has been tons of fun! I won’t even go in to our biggest hurdle though, as Platy did a lovely job of going over that on his site.
But, here we are. Platy is on the mend, though often frustrated by the limitations imposed by having one usable arm/hand during our unpacking and settling in phase; I am still unable to fully work at work because I am locked out of the network, but I had a glimpse for a short while and am making due; and Abi is loving her new school. I can’t tell you what a relief that last piece is – she has been my main concern this entire time, and from the first day, she has been thrilled with her new school – thank goodness!!
We miss our friends, we miss living on the river and our fireplace, but I think we are going to be all-right.
-”The difficulties of life are intended to make us better, not bitter.” ~Author Unknown
-”If you break your neck, if you have nothing to eat, if your house is on fire, then you got a problem. Everything else is inconvenience.” ~Robert Fulghum
Well, I wasn’t sure what to write about tonight, so I started looking at quotes that contained “tired” because I am quite sleepy at the moment. This quote simply made me giggle because my father used to tell me often “I hope that one day you have a daughter who talks as much as you do”, and boy did he get his wish! Poor Platy has two lovely ladies who, on occasion, have a complete inability to stop the movement of their tongue. In fact, the more tired we are, the faster we talk – like we have to be talking to breathe. Funny – but only in retrospect, not always so funny at the time.
-”All parts of the human body get tired eventually – except the tongue.”
I am one of those lame people who loves to go to the beach, but maybe not so much get in the water….. A chair, umbrella and a book, or even just a nice long walk are all made that much better with the beauty of the waves and the symphony of their crashing on the sand. Today I had the chance to go to the ocean and watch my lovely family enjoy the water while sitting on the beach contemplating. Suddenly, during that contemplation, I was hit with a wave (pardon the pun) of such indescribable sadness that it actually took my breath away. Just a few short weeks ago, I was talking to someone who said that one of his wife’s dying wishes was to see the ocean one last time. Unfortunately, they were never able to get her pain under control enough for her to make that trip to the coast. I hate that such a wonderful young woman was taken from her family in such a painful and agonizing way. I hate that she had to have a bucket list at all. And more importantly, I hate that she wanted something so simple, but was unable to have it. So, as I sat there today, thinking of S., I hope that where-ever she is now, whatever there is beyond this life, that she is able to experience the peacefulness of the ocean anytime she pleases.
-”At the beach, life is different. Time doesn’t move hour to hour but mood to moment. We live by the currents, plan by the tides, and follow the sun.”
I could’ve used that title just to describe the week by itself – our little 12 day stretches often feel as though they are at least a month long! This one was different though. I spent the first five days training in Rhode Island at the former Ladd Institute – so on top of working hard, we got to be scared a lot too! That kept me away from work, and made it difficult to prepare for the working weekend as I normally would – making those two days a constant running fest where I never did feel caught up. Then, as the adage goes, the crap hit the fan. We saw more tragedy in the past 7 days than any group of people should ever have to endure. Two painful deaths, a severe accident and the shock of it all were almost too much to even process. Through all of this though, we came together as a second family in a way that doesn’t seem possible. I have never been a part of someplace that is truly tight-knit enough to call a second family, but we honestly are. (Scares me to think of what the future may hold if/when we move, but doesn’t diminish the excitement for finally getting an answer to that question).
To B, A and I (no need for names, if you come here, you likely know who I am talking about), I wish you the very best in moving forward. I can’t imagine your pain and your grief, but I know as a family, you will make it through this and your memories of S will keep you smiling at the times when you need it most. My heart aches for each of you, and I will do everything I can to help you in this next stage.
“A friend who dies, it’s something of you that dies.”
Some people say “there are too many holidays for military members”. Those people will never understand the importance that every branch of our military plays in their day to day lives. Though military personnel will always be the first to deflect any praise by insisting that our emergency responders are the true heroes, they still should never be overlooked. Happy Independence Day, and thank you to all heroes – past, present and future that make this country the greatest place in the world to live.
“This nation will remain the land of the free only so long as it is the home of the brave.”
I have been told my whole life that I am a very empathetic person. I often wonder if people realize when they say that, what an impact this has on my day-to-day life? I don’t think you can really understand, unless you are “overly” empathetic yourself, the way that it can make you feel sometimes. From the odd sixth sense when you walk in to an office before an inspection and the tension all around induces a stomach ache; to the waking in the middle of the night when you know someone you work with is suffering an incredible tragedy – being empathetic can be disrupting to say the least. I say this now, because someone I work with has been going through times that I simply can’t imagine as she battles cancer and her family waits anxiously by her side, and I have thought of them every day (which in my Buddhist way is saying I have been praying), and my heart has been broken for them. Last week however, though not better, they are now back home and no longer living in a minute-by-minute misery, and there is more hope in their situation than there was just a week ago. May better days be in their future, and after such a scare, may remission be right around the corner.
“Empathy is full presence to what’s alive in the other person at this moment.”